hearts

Posted by Sherry on February 14, 2010

As you know, if you read my last post, today is just another day for us, not Valentines Day. But since the rest of you celebrate VD today, I thought I’d give you some hearts and love thoughts from our own home to yours.

I don’t feel at home with a lot of clutter, but for some reason I love this little heart-themed shelf of memorabilia.

I’ll resist the urge to tell the significance of each item, but you can be sure there are lots of stories on that tiny shelf: the doll a gift from dear friends in a former life, the wooden apple a gift to Margaret-Rose in her teacher years, the car a leftover from Paul’s childhood,

the cross-stitch from Quinn just learning how, the JOY award given to Ben at Grace Youth Camp,

my original Rubik’s Cube, the “M” carved by Mauri, wax lips…my treasures, someone else’s junk.

a valentine story

Posted by Sherry on February 10, 2010

On February 10—not 14—we celebrate Valentine’s Day because it’s the day I asked you to marry me. Not in so many words, of course, since women aren’t supposed to propose. But it just slipped out; I hadn’t planned anything. We were just sitting there together on the couch in that tiny cabin by the ocean. I had traveled all the way from Michigan, left my children and business to fend for themselves, to pursue the picturesque possibilities of blending our families.

My right hand had moved discretely to your thigh as we talked. Then out came the crucial question: “So when should I start thinking possessively about this?”

“About what?”

This!” I said, gently squeezing your thigh with my fingers. Not a hint of surprise crossed the curves of your bearded face as we grasped simultaneously the meaning of my question. No doubt about it—that was a proposal and needed a response, which came with your next breath: “You can have it all—lock, stock, and barrel.”

It’s here again—our very own Valentine’s Day. We’ve built a good life together in these 16 years since I asked for your thigh in marriage. It’s a moment to recapture, recommit. A moment worth celebrating.

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That’s the assignment I read to my writing group last night. And today Mauri and I took the day off work to hang out together—our kind of celebrating. It was very nice. And a couple of reminiscent pictures to cap it off.

Here’s the “tiny cabin by the ocean.” [For the record, I stayed in Captain's Cabin; Mauri stayed in Lower Deck.]

Yep, the couch and the famous thigh that started the whole thing.

You can’t see the ocean or the Twin Rocks, but you can see that Mauri set up his keyboard and took his guitar. Singing together has always been part of who we are.

We haven’t changed much at all, have we?

one

Posted by Sherry on February 7, 2010

All birthdays are exciting and worthy of celebration. But a first birthday is extra exciting, don’tcha think? Grandson Oscar turned one today and ate the very first cupcake of his life. His parents had a birthday brunch planned, not only to celebrate Oscar’s first year but also to thank all the friends who have supported them through it. Twenty-eight inches of snow in Philadelphia caused a postponement, but they know a week won’t make that much difference in the grand scheme of things. And Oscar managed to find his own entertainment.

You might remember the Old Maid cards I made for the Anderson girls. Oscar needed a set too. Here’re the before/after pics.

Granted, age one is a little young for the game, but he can still be reminded of all the people who make up his family, who love him from the top of his soft blond head to the bottom of his sweet kissable feet.

granola

Posted by Sherry on February 6, 2010

Disclaimer: Most often I post stuff here about other people and events and don’t write personal stuff. This is an exception.

I had to chuckle at myself this morning as I put together the granola ingredients I recently purchased at Whole Foods. Yes, Whole Foods! And I wasn’t happening past and decided to stop in. No, I drove 27 miles round trip to spend top dollar for groceries, organic groceries, no less. The chuckle represents a past of disinterest in healthy food, which means I have to admit I fed my growing family hot dogs and Kraft Mac’n'Cheese and fast food and instant this/that and an occasional well-balanced meal. While I’m not going to beat myself up for creating cookie monsters out of my children, who are now plenty old enough to make their own eating decisions—I am going to confess my enlightenment at age 64 regarding my food choices.

Granola is the word we always used to describe someone who was “earthy,” someone who didn’t shave her legs and wore hippy clothes and didn’t eat meat and lived in a commune. And now it’s time for me to eat my words.

It all started when a horrendous chronic cough took over my life. I couldn’t go anywhere without a supply of cough drops, tissues, and water. My coworkers were patient about listening to my fits, but it had to be disconcerting. A good night of sleep never happened. I went through so many boxes of Puffs I finally had to resort to manly “handkerchiefs,” which I kept handy at all times.

Just to give you the idea, this stack on my closet shelf got used and washed every week! I keep them there, unused now, as a reminder to stick with my new regime.

My doctor put me on several batches of antibiotics, one with a “prednisone taper.” The meds didn’t do anything for my cough; however I couldn’t help but notice that the steroid took away all my pain, my near-constant companion since our bike crash nearly four years ago. Two health issues dictated my livelihood.

So I went to an ear/nose/throat doctor, who looked at my sinus CT scan and scoped my nasal passages and declared them all clear. But he had one idea: silent reflux and gave me a sheet of instructions. I couldn’t even find it in a Google search but figured I didn’t have anything to lose.

On November 30 I started two restricted diets, one to stop my cough and one to stop my pain. I don’t eat dairy (except organic butter in tiny amounts), onions, garlic, potatoes, tomatoes, citrus, peanuts, wheat (gluten), corn or corn products, caffeine, pork, shellfish, refined anything, carbonated anything, the list goes on. I’m happy to report that with the changes in my eating (along with a strong dose of over-the-counter Prilosec), my cough disappeared! Believe me, after more than a year of hacking, I am one happy camper.

John and Erin loaned me their anti-inflammation diet book (pictured with the granola), and I’m sticking with it, come hell or high water! The pain isn’t gone, but I’m sure it’s better.

Eating good food is a good idea in general. I’d like to think I’m convinced. It takes effort and regular denial, but if it improves my quality of life, I’d say that’s a reasonable tradeoff. And if it extends my life, so be it, especially if I can be like Mom Edna, who at 90 embraces with vigor the time she has left. A couple of days ago I went to see her in the annual talent show at her retirement home—line dancing!

There she is, front row, second from the right. That’s me in a couple of years. Just call me “Granola.” However, I plan to keep shaving my legs.

team meeting

Posted by Sherry on February 2, 2010

On Tuesdays we meet as a team (pastors and Denise and me) to check in, do a spiritual practice, pray, work through an agenda, and eat lunch together. I love team meeting so didn’t necessarily long for a change, but today’s field trip to Tilikum was especially nice because the sun added lovely warmth to my reading spot inside and to my walking spot outside. I snapped this picture of two others enjoying the rays.

I can’t visit Tilikum without remembering the Anderson photo shoot,

John and Erin’s wedding in 2004, and even my pre-Macy days.

I can only imagine all the memories that return to team member Steve, who grew up at Tilikum—his dad once the director, his mom once the cook. My 17-year history seems shallow by comparison. I’m okay with that.

and you thought pots and pans were for cooking

Posted by Sherry on January 31, 2010

circa 1977 • Baby Taylor gets ready to pull the pans out of the cupboard.

circa 2004 • Baby Cassidy—the same pans/lids offer entertainment.

circa 2009 • Baby Oscar investigates our 43-year-old cookware. Chances are another babe or two will play with these pans before they become obsolete.

must read

Posted by Sherry on January 26, 2010

Quinn sent me a link to a blogpost by her friend Karen. It is too good to not share. In fact I’m adding that blog to my Google Reader, just in case any of the other contributors are exceptional communicators like Karen.

mission accomplished

Posted by Sherry on January 24, 2010

You haven’t heard much out of me lately and that’s because my life has involved one goal: keep the dog alive in Mauri’s absence. Usually when Mauri goes to help lead retreats at the coast during the month of January, I dive into a long list of projects collected over the past 11 months. This year the list was short: keep the dog alive. So when Mauri returned yesterday and unpacked his stuff to stay a while, I started thinking of all the projects I can do now that he’s here to occupy the dog.

You see, things are once again as they should be.

dq

Posted by Sherry on January 16, 2010

Mauri’s home for one day between week two and week three of three retreats at Twin Rocks Friends Camp’s Harbor Villa. The weather out at the coast hasn’t cooperated much with his picture-taking plans, but, alas, on Thursday night God painted the sky like you wouldn’t believe, and here’s what Mauri captured in his lens.

I couldn’t choose between these two, so you get a double portion.

You might be wondering why I titled this “dq.” It’s because I’m posting this while Mauri takes Mr. Darcy to Dairy Queen for an ice cream cone. She’s not just a little bit spoiled.

it’s about time!

Posted by Sherry on January 11, 2010

Let’s see, I’ve worked at Newberg Friends Church since September 8, 2003—six plus years—and I just now got my own office door plate. I guess it was just an extra long trial period, you know, to prove I had enough staying power to merit an official sign. But the new youth pastor didn’t have to prove himself even for a day, since his door plate was in place on his first day of work!

I suppose I could claim discrimination except that  it’s my job to order the signs. So I take it all back.